Category: Dating
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Rejected!
Rejection is a mutha! I remember my first ‘professional’ job at Chicago Public Schools. I was twenty-nine years old and still dealing with significant mental health issues. During my year at that job, I was constantly late, had terrible time management, and lacked passion for my work. In December 2012, I was laid off. It […]
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The Truth About the Friend Zone
This was a lesson in friendshipI stress in this sentenceShould women and men be friends first?And then slip?My pen drips as I scribble my thoughts on thin stripsOf devotion What is the Friend-Zone? For all you cool kids out there, this is what UrbanDictionary says: “A mythical place where misogynists go to when a woman doesn’t want their penis. or […]
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Boys Do Cry
“They say a man not supposed to cryTell me why these tears keep fallin’?We die to live, but we live to dieI could feel my heartbeat often” – Black Cloud, by Kevin Gates I recently went down a Reddit rabbit hole. A user posed a question that may seem like bs to some, but it […]
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Say Hello to the Bad Guy
The Bad Guy seems to be the type of man elevated by our society. These men’s legacy of being bad gives them infamy. The last two elected presidents of the United States both have credible accounts of misbehavior regarding sexual harassment and assault. Yet the American people still chose Trump and Biden, respectively, to be the figureheads […]
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What is an Evolved Man?
I titled this website “Evolving Man Project,” but what exactly is an “Evolved Man”? I hope this website inspires my fellow men and those who identify as male to be someone who stands out from the crowd. Being an “Evolved Man” doesn’t mean you think you’re better than others. It also goes far beyond the outdated and […]
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Random Thoughts on Black Men: Pride Edition
It’s time to return to “Random Thoughts on Black Men.” In previous articles, I questioned why some brothas feared dogs, why some brothas wore socks with sandals, and some brothas felt the need to Hotep or black men’s colorism towards darker-skinned black women. In 2021, I did the third post on this topic where I praised brothas just […]
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Let’s Talk About Sex
Sex Ed is a Joke It’s been a couple of decades since I was a teenager, but I remember watching the movie Mean Girls when I was on a date in my early 20s. It was the scene where the gym teacher told a group of students, “If you have the sex, you’ll get pregnant […]
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More ‘Sorta’ Sage Dating Advice from an ‘Old-Ass’ Millenial
I can hear it now, another goddamn article with dating advice. You damn right! Now, I wrote about dating on the Evolving Man Project before. I have something to say again, being an elder millennial and all. I’m coming up on my fifth wedding anniversary, and Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, folks. I’ve […]
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Random Thoughts on Black Men: Part III
In 2017, I wrote a couple of pieces titled “Random Thoughts on Black Men.” In those articles, I questioned why some brothas fear dogs, why some brothas wear socks with sandals, some brothas feel the need to Hotep, or our colorism towards darker-skinned black women. I’m revisiting these thoughts once again. Today, I will give three random thoughts on […]
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The “Alpha Male” Myth
There is no such thing as an Alpha. The Alpha Male has been the idealized male in mainstream culture for decades. Dominate, powerful, imposing, etc., but the idea of the alpha male is a myth. In the non-human animal world, there are no alpha males. Alpha male and female once claimed to rule the wolf pack […]
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